Sometimes you drive me nuts!

Recently my little boy has brought up a notch on his episodes of meltdowns and crying. He looks for mommy all the time. If I am out of his sight he starts calling “mommy” with a crack on the voice. Soon after he will start crying. When he does not get what he wants, he starts crying again. 

It is quite annoying when his crying escalates into higher decibels. It just drives me crazy! Either I shut down and freeze or I just get all irritated. Telling my son, “please don’t cry, just talk to me”, sometimes does not work. My little boy has tantrums and cries. We need a time out! His Yaya has to get him and we need to separate. I feel so exhausted and feel such a bad mommy because I can’t control the situation and have a peaceful dealing with this 2 year old!

 

When Joshua gets impatient, or irritated because he can’t get what he wants, or frustrated because I don’t understand him, or upset because he can’t have my 100% full attention, then the tantrum begins.  He can wail for 20 minutes and it can be so tiring and exhausting and provokes me to get angry. Agh… It’s hard to keep cool, and I know I must. 

 

 

So, I asked other moms about their experiences and many who have passed this stage I am in. I almost got a unanimous answer… They said they can’t really remember what they did and how they managed! That account alone consoles me. It means, these days shall pass and will be a memory that does not scar! Praise God!  Hahahaha… I need that simple encouragement.

It’s so funny because during my birthday weekend, we had friends with us in the farm. Then, my girl friend Jade who has only one child entered our room. She saw Joshua in his meltdown episode and my little daughter also crying because she needed to breastfeed. Both of my children were crying. So you can imagine how the room sounded. I got Anna to breastfeed her, while Joshua was wailing in front of me. It was happening for a good 2 minutes. My friend was watching this episode. There I was trying to calm my nerves about it — all I could say was “Please stop scaring Tita (Auntie) Jade, she may never decide to get pregnant again!” Jade and I laughed at my remark. To some moms that scene would look sooo scary!  

I thank God for His grace. No wonder when I see mothers who have more than 2 children, they have patience and calm spirits… The catalyst in developing that character are their husbands and children! Hahahaha! It’s absolutely true! 

 

 

Okay my kids drive me nuts sometimes. At times, I have to be disciplined to discipline too (it means not to delay disciplining my child when he is disobedient or disrespectful).  But bottom line is — these moments shall pass and my heart will continue to love them despite these little shortcomings. I think many times I fail as a mom… I get totally clueless what to do, plus my emotions get involved. Yet,  I must remember the privilege God has given to me to be a mother… Though times get tough — in the end God rewards me with my children’s hugs and kisses. And all those bad moments go away! And they really do! 

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Simple joys 

Just this Holy Week we did a spontaneous and unplanned trip. We packed up our clothes, our groceries, our games, and our kids to a weekend in Kling Plantation. Our only plan is to eat and have fun by the beach and check out the farm. It turned out to be more fun than we thought!

For a couple of days we had no internet. This meant finding ways of doing things together without distraction… And that’s exactly what we did!

We had barbecue and swam in the beach in front of the farm. Our kids enjoyed making sand castles and flew their kites and some of us even took a small banca ride around.

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 We also did activities that were mentally stimulating. We played othello, scrabble, and the kids did their Holy Week art work too!

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The farm had small horses, so each one took turns riding them around. My son has seen horses but this is his very first ride. He was a little scared in the beginning. Much later he was touching the horse which was very good! 

 
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We also took a ride across the farm until we reached the Maligang River. There we got off from our cars and just took a dip in the river. Just like that– these were simple joys of life. As they say, the best things in life are free! 

 

    

  

    

 Since we got all “River-ed Up” , we decided to go straight to New La Union in Maitum and go for the most exciting River Tubing Adventure. First, we got entertained by the Tboli children and next by the rapids of Pangi River. It was absolutely an amazing nature trip! The kids were asking to do it again.

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 I loved how we disconnected from the world and from all our gadgets for a couple of days. We really enjoyed nature and the people we were with. It was a great weekend of simple joys! We did nothing expensive and yet what we experienced and the memories made are priceless!