Mommy’s Day!

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Thanks to a facebook greeting from a friend, this photo made me giggle so early this Mother’s day morning! It’s true… How do we mommies do it?

We are able to do like gazillion things in the house, work, caring for our babies and their caregivers, serving our husbands, making time for friends, etc… God’s designed women to be really, really strong, resilient, multitasking, resourceful, and just simply amazing human beings! I always looked up to the women in my life–first, my mom who delivered twins and managed to raise us on her own when she became a single mom. She’s resourceful and fun! My grandmother, who bore five children was an amazing home maker. She baked and cooked as her side line, and sewed dresses and bags for her daughters so they would catch up with the fashion trends without spending so much… She even sewed my mom’s wedding dress! How sweet is that!

Then, there are amazing moms too in my day and age! I admire my twin sister Monique. She has 4 children of her own. She is a businesswoman of a growing promo and events company, and she has a big heart for ministry with her husband. A couple years ago she took that step of faith to homeschool her kids. I look and wonder how she does it… She is so calm under pressure and so positive! I also admire my sister-in-law, Pria. She is a single mom and yet that did not become a crutch for her. She raised an admirable, responsible, handsome gentleman. I have seen her in that crazy roller coaster of motherhood, and she has done a great job! The other woman, I admire is my friend Joy. She is a mother of four and pregnant with her 5th. She is a committed wife, an intentional parent, a homeschooling mom, inspirational speaker, a blogger. Her children are not only good looking, but growing in the character of Christ. In fact her 2 older sons join them in speaking engagements and encourages the audience positively to live by faith.

There are just so many amazing supermoms out there!

The only reason moms can be super moms is not by genetic configuration. I truly believe it stems from an inner strength coming from a SUPER GOD! Only God our creator can empower women with these attributes enabling them to become super moms! For the journey of motherhood take moms to depths of love she never would imagine she can give. She would also experience anxiety on matters she never thought she would worry about, and yet will be able to overcome. Since she no longer lives for herself, daily acts of selflessness is a norm. A mom will also experience great joys and susceptible to pains that come along with parenting. All these she will be able to go thru because a Big God is giving her abundance of grace.

I thank God for sustaining me daily and giving me everything I need to be a good mommy. In the end, like all moms, we just want these — children who will be able to stand on their own, a heart instilled with good values, and for them to live prosperous, successful, and healthy lives…

To us mommies, let’s thank God for entrusting us with this gift! I greet mommies out there — Happy Mommies day! Cheers to us!

Proverbs 31:28-31NLT “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all! Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.”

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(Memes are taken from facebook postings)

Peer Pressured

“Not everything are found in books, leave room for mother’s instincts!” — This is golden advise I got from one of my baby showers.

My friends and family know that I am the type of person that likes to research. Google, baby center, whattoexpect.com, and many other resources have been my guide in caring for my baby. Of course, there are also advises from friends, family, my pediatrician and other mommies. These become your support system as you rear your child especially if you are a first-time mom. I particularly enjoy knowing if my little boy is meeting his milestones. So far, he is pretty smart little guy and advance for his age. For that, I really praise God.

At four months old, some babies have slept through the night (6-8 hour sleep).This means, they are able to sleep through without nursing. Many moms I know have that experience with their babies. Unfortunate for me, Joshua is not sleeping through the night just yet. We would prepare sleeping time at 8pm by bathing and he would be in zzzz land by 8:30pm. When I shared this schedule with other mommy friends, I learned my baby slept the latest. Theirs would be sleeping by 6:30pm or 7pm! Hmmm… could there must be something wrong with my style???

You see Joshua developed his sleeping pattern and it was led by him. Usually he would wake around 5 am then would sleep again around 7 am for 30 mins. Then after bathing he would sleep around 9am until 11 am or 12 noon. After, he would take an afternoon nap by 1:30pm until 3pm. And another last nap at around 5pm before the night time sleep at 8:30pm. But even at 8:30 pm his longest stretch is really until 12 midnight (so only 3.5 hours). After that he asks to be nursed every 1-2 hours until 5 am. You can tell, I still don’t get a lot of sleep!

Now, I’ve been seeing these write ups on Sleep Training… also using CIO (Cry it Out) method to get the baby to self sooth and he will eventually sleep. I began to really feel pressured that Joshua was not sleeping through the night and that maybe I should start being strict with him and applying the CIO method.

For about 2 nights, I applied what was in the books to get him ready for sleep training. That included bathing him, getting the room suitable for sleeping, nursing him and putting him down. I actually get to achieve this. The difficult part is his first wake… it was suggested to just leave him and he will just put himself back to sleep. If he cries, just let him cry. Moms can talk to their baby and pat them gently and leave them. So I tried this method. Man, I have to say, my son can cry longer than 20 minutes! He was also using his very modulated loud cry with tears and all! He really was not happy. I could not help myself from carrying him and he would still sob and it took a while for him to get over it… But I really believed, I have to start training him or else he will never get this milestone! He might be the only kid who does not sleep through the night at 4 months!

Two nights I attempted this. Then on the third day, we noticed something wrong with Joshua. His voice became hoarse. He was losing his voice from all the loud crying and grunting. Worst part is, on the fourth day, his hoarse voice was accompanied by him being fussy and crying a bit more than usual. Of course I attributed this to his daddy who had the sniffles (hehehe).

I continued with the so-called “Sleep training”. However, I began feeling that this whole idea of training my baby is just too much for him. Instead of me getting rest, I was getting more tired because Joshua was crying more, and requiring more of me! That evening, Joshua started developing a low grade fever and was really needy of me. I started to pray and asked God to restore my son’s health back. I also asked God to guide me on how to care for my son.

God gave me an insight to let go of that milestone checklist. Joshua will sleep through the night in his own good time. No need to rush him. He is just an infant. He will get there when he is good and ready. As a mom, I should not feel pressured with what the books says, or feel inadequate when sharing notes with other moms. That night Joshua slept in my embrace. I wanted him to feel secured and comforted, and that his mommy will not leave him alone until he is ready.

I was really comforted to read some online community discussions, where other moms like me, have babies that dont sleep through the night. In fact, the discussion encourage moms to just continue nursing their babies at night if they dont sleep through. The rationale is eventually this stage will pass, and all children will wean from night feedings. All children will get their “sleep through the night” stage.

So, for now, I am adjusting the night sleeping time of Joshua to an earlier time of 730pm. But I am not going to let him cry it out anymore! Im just going to wait, and prayerfully watch the day he will be ready to sleep longer, to nurse less and to reach his milestone!

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“For the vision is yet for the appointed time; It hastens toward the goal and it will not fail. Though it tarries, wait for it; For it will certainly come, it will not delay. (Habakkuk 2:3 NASB)

In Eternity…

It’s been forty days since dad (my father-in-law) stepped into his eternal home. We want to celebrate his life and the joy he is now experiencing in heaven.

I am reminded of that day when Tom (my brother-in-law) and I were in dad’s room preparing for the wake. Tom was looking for paper so he could jot down our errands. I helped him look for paper when suddenly the book “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren was seen on dad’s desk. I took the book, and I opened it. It happened to be the copy I gave to Steve 9-10 years ago.

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I later learned that dad was asking for this book and wanted to read it. So Steve gave him his copy. What we saw was a bookmarked chapter that spoke volumes of peace for all of us. Dad book marked chapter 4 entitled ” Made to Last Forever”.

Dad understood that this earthly life is temporal and that we are all made for eternity with God. This life is just a dry run for what we will be doing in heaven.

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During dad’s wake, Pastor Jeric Soriano shared with us that eternity does not start when we die. It begins the moment we surrender our life to Jesus. Eternity is ours now if we voluntarily give our life to God. For where we will be spending eternity is a choice each person has to make. Either we will be enjoying, praising, glorifying and serving God, or be apart from God for all eternity.

Pastor Jeric also gave us a good insight, that our body is just an “earth suit”. Eventually it gets worn out and torn down. This will be replaced by a heavenly suit when we get there. What is important is what we often neglect… our spirit and soul. We can make our bodies look good through exercise, our skin through facials and other treatments, our image through fashion etc. Most likely we do not spend as much attention on grooming our Spirit and Soul.

Body, Spirit, & Soul

Body, Spirit, & Soul

Our body will waste away and will return to dust, but our Spirit & Soul lives on. It is sobering when people you know, people who matter to you, pass away. It is a reminder that we will all die someday. But, we should all look forward to the life after this. The bible says it so rightly,

“Lord, remind me how brief my time on earth will be.
Remind me that my days are numbered—
how fleeting my life is.” (Psalm 39:4)

We do not know when God will call us back and give an account to him. So, we must live each day ready to meet our Creator . Live to please God and honor Him.

John 2:17 And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.

Today, we are letting the Lord God turn our grief into joy. We are going to allow God to heal the pain of separation, and look forward to the day of reunion. Today, we are going to celebrate and thank God for the life of Ruben. Today, my husband and I are committing to teach our son, Joshua, to look forward to eternity.

Dad’s passing has moved all of us to look forward to heaven. Daddy Ben gave his life to Jesus, he surrendered his entire being to the Lord. And peacefully he entered heaven…and peacefully he is in Eternity.

Tattoo tribute to Dad

Tattoo tribute of a daughter to her dad.

(Photos here are actual tattoos in memory of Ruben Solon)