Child proofing your space

My little guy happens to be a very fit baby.. He is exclusively breastfed and very active toddler. He was only 2 months when he started the tummy crawl. In time, he rolled over and crawls better. Then suddenly, he cruises and just becomes very mobile and curious. As a mom, with these developments, I began to see the accident-prone areas in our home.

First on my list is securing Joshua from the hard floor. I had to pad the floor in Joshua’s room with rubber tiles. This way it cushions him from falls or painful rolls.
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Next, I had to address the furniture in the room. Joshua learned to get support from drawers and cabinets for him to stand up. To prevent finger accidents, I had to find several household preventive tools.

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You can buy these from the hardware store and they are stick-on locks that stops drawers and cabinets from opening.

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My son is very observant. He sees how many times in a day I plug my gadgets in electric sockets. Obviously, he would come near the sockets and tries to put his fingers to inspect it. Haaaaah! I stop him from one socket then he crawls to the next! To solve it, there are these wonderful plastic covers that can be inserted in sockets. These are just great to have!
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Another innovative invention of a mom is this screen cover for electric fans. I got this from a mom bazaar in manila. This is brilliant! It stops fingers from getting through and I super love this!

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Safety is really key with a toddler. Child-proofing your space just relieves you from worrying about the next accident. It is always better to be on the side of prevention rather than being sorry.
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A Love for dogs….passed on.

We love dogs. In fact, before Joshua came into our lives, our pets were like children to us. We have 3 wonderful big (slightly overweight) dogs and they bring us so much joy.

Blue and Scotch, our American Staffordshire Terrier (from pitbull line) grew up sleeping with us in our bed..They are lovable, playful, and for years took the place of a missing child in our marriage. Well, it was until the day, God granted our desire.

When I was pregnant, I was advised to start weaning my dogs off me, so they won’t get jealous when our baby arrives. I admit it was hard to do. So our dogs slept with us in the room (not on our bed) even till my 8th month. I felt the dogs knew I was pregnant because Blue was always surrounding me like a protector especially on my last trimester. I wondered,
“how will they react when I leave for the hospital and I come home with a new baby and not pay much attention to them?”

I was told that when I give birth, the father has to come home with baby wraps and make the dogs smell it, so they can be familiar of the new one that will be coming home soon. I’m not sure if my hubby did that. But when I arrived home from the hospital, our 3 dogs were excited to see me, and they wanted to see and smell the baby. Unfortunately, we were advised for the safety of the baby from allergies and asthma, it would be best to keep them apart first.

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However, when I would get early sun for Joshua, they would follow wherever he was like guard dogs! As the months passed, Joshua would take morning strolls and they would fetch him from the door. We are family, it is impossible not to care for each other.
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Joshua at 8 months has become interested with the dogs. He likes to touch them, follow them, and pull their tails! He is not afraid and he enjoys them.
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Our love for dogs is something that Joshua sees and he too now is a little dog lover like us!

Smartphones are for ME-TIME!

As a newbie mommy, I did not realize that me-time will be one scarce luxury. All the more if you are committed to breastfeeding, you feel like a milk machine that needs to function every 2-3 hours. In short, with the demands of child care, a mommy has very slim chance to do things she would normally do. So shopping, visiting salons, eating out or hanging out with friends are very limited or even impossible.

Thank goodness for technology and the smartphone. Internet browsing, and social media give moms the ME-TIME at the convenience of their available time when babies are sleeping or nursing. The internet enabled gadgets like the tablets, smartphone, has allowed moms to be connected with the world even if reality is they are stuck at home. It allows us to slip out of reality momentarily and like and comment on facebook posts and instagram photos. Also without having to go through a bulky laptop, I can easily research my queries about my worries, my issues, and the encouragement needed about my child care issues.

When nursing my baby for 15 to 45 mins, I find it most helpful to getaway from the boring stare-on-the-wall to reading blogs, news and checking on friends and family instead. I have found myself and another mom actively liking and commenting on facebook at 3am! Obviously we were awake because we were feeding our babies. The smart gadgets help us stay awake while we are nursing our babes… And because the smartphone is small, easy to hold with the hand, and light, it makes it the most easy gadget to have near the bed.

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Whats great is also the loads of application available for download on your smart gadget. One of the applications I enjoy the most is the bible and you can download it from http://www.youversion.com. This allows me to have quiet time despite the hectic and demanding schedule of a mom. Indeed, I consider this such a pleasure to have this smart gadgets that allows me to have ME-TIME. It really is a blessing and such a great time to be a mom with all this technology!

Those pearly whites!

I remember getting a bit worried when Joshua was 6 months old that his teeth has not come out yet. I hear stories of kids getting their teeth earlier. I must confess I felt slightly worried that I did not have enough calcium thats why his teeth was not here yet.

Of course the expectant MOMMY-me was looking at Josh’s every drool, providing his teether for his hardening gums, and letting him cut biscuits with his toothless jaw. I guess you can say as a first time mom you want to see the results according to the books!

So yes, not on the 6 month did his two lower teeth come out, but rather almost 9 months! Joshua and I were on a plane to Manila when his tantrum was unconsolable. Not even breastfeeding or breastmilk can appease. I was pretty stressed and tired on that ride because my son would not stop crying. This tantrum lasted beyond the air plane ride, to occassional crying between meals and play time. Worst, was at night he would awake fully crying and I started to suspect that it could be his teeth coming out.

True to that premise, Josh was in pain. He would feel relief from ice-cold candies as a pacifier. But I think one of the best discovery is the Xylogel. Recommended by my pediatrician, you apply this gel type paste on affected gum and it would somehow give an anesthetic numbing from the pain. When Joshua awoke the 2nd night in tears, I applied it over his gums and he slept well!

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I never thought it would be this way because my twin sister’s kids never had problems with their first tooth coming out. But since our experience was different it is good to know we have options to address the painful entry of those pearly whites!

Now as an exclusive breastfeeding mom, I am amazed at the resiliency of our physical anatomy to adapt having those new teeth around as I continue nursing my baby. Its not a horror story as I expected.

The great thing with this new development of Joshua’s new pair of teeth, is Josh’s new food adventures. His pearly whites help him cut through cheese, fruit, and other solids. This indeed is a blessing and great fun to watch!

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Paying it forward

When I gave birth to my son, it was a sure thing I will be delivering my baby via c-section. I had the best support because my twin sister flew in with her entire family, so did my mom and my brother.

Gino, my brother did the sweetest thing for me. He donated his blood (and it was his very first blood extraction). In case I needed blood for my operation I needed a standby with the same blood type. Monique also did the sweetest thing for Josh… She gave her breast milk to my son when my milk was still not yet flowing. My mom was a super blessing… She bathed me, dressed my operation wound, and assisted me like a professional care giver. Steve took care of all admin details and stood by me all the way. I had the love and support of family.
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I also understand the difficulties a first time mom has on her first month. Thus, I have a desire to help my friends who are first time moms. Its sort of a “pay it forward ministry” because I received so much blessing, love, and support on my first time.

My friend Jade is a first time mommy and gave birth to her first baby this September. Her natural birth plan turned out to be an emergency CS. Though it seemed frustrating that plans changed, but God meant it for good. Her son is a healthy good looking 6 lbs little boy!

Jade calls me that she was stressed and needed support on how to care for her little one. So, we made arrangements with a midwife to teach her the basics of caring for a newborn baby. I also made myself available to encourage her to breast feed.

Like any new mom, you don’t get much sleep. Jade, her mom, and her baby had been pretty much awake all night. Our first project was to swaddle her baby, then for him to latch, get him some good morning sun, bathe and latch again.

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I was so excited to witness and assist her baby’s first successful latch! Jade is blessed because she has milk and even if she is inverted, we were able to find a way for her baby to latch! It encouraged her so much. Also it means she can say good bye to the formula milk that made her baby’s poo hard for a 3 day old baby.

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It just proved to me that nothing is impossible if you really want to breast feed. Unlike Jade, I had no milk. But I did not give up. In a matter of days, Joshua’s latch stimulated the production of my milk. By God’s grace, Im still breastfeeding for the past 9 months!

Jade’s baby first bath at home was also a joy to watch and assist. My son’s newborn clothes were also loaned to them. What a blessed Sunday the day was for all of us.

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I’m blessed because Jayden is a miracle baby. He was delivered via emergency CS because his fetal heartbeat was dropping due to delivery distress. But today he is looking more like a good looking bundle of joy and getting a lot of nourishment from his very dedicated mommy. Congratulations Mommy Jade!

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Separation anxiety!

I work for an international telecom company for 12 years already. For the first time in a long time, the company decided to hold a sales kick-off for the entire sales force of the company in Macao. To some its the most exciting experience to look forward to. In all honesty, I felt kindda torn about it because for the first time I will be apart from my little one.

I am an exclusive breastfeeding mom. I plan to be one until my son decides he is ready to wean himself. The dilemma I had was how to be able to prepare to be apart from my son for one week!

Since I knew that my trip was in July, beginning April I started to save about 2-3 oz of breast milk each day. I would store in bpa free plastics and freeze it in the freezer. I would label each plastic the date I expressed it and the volume.

I also began observing my baby’s schedule. His daily waking hour, his daily eating time, his sleeping schedule, his bathing and playing time, and his milk drinking periods. What was difficult to tell was how much milk he was drinking from me at night because it is straight from the breast. So I “guess-timated” because it was pretty hard to measure.

I also began to pray to prepare my baby and myself for that particular week. I prayed that my son would be okay, and he would be able to sustain a week without me, to have enough milk, and to be accident free. Most of all I prayed for me to be okay. Mind you… I have not been away from my baby for more than 6 hours for the entire 6 months of his existence! So this was a huge deal for me.

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So before I left, I saved about 90oz of frozen milk packed in containers according to chronological order. I made a schedule for yaya Jovy to follow. I was also super grateful to my sister-in-law, Pria for staying in The province to oversee Joshua for me.

I took the night flight out to so I could stay as long as I could with my baby. I was able to breastfeed him and I left him in a happy playful mood. But that flight gave me butterflies in my tummy from all that anxiety of leaving. That night and every night away from home, I found it difficult to sleep because I was not used to sleeping by myself. Weird as it may sound but I felt something was missing so all my sleep were light and stressful.

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The sad part about that week was the fact that I could not store and bring home the milk I would express while in Macao. So it was a “pump and dump” week. I felt so sad when my breast milk was being thrown away. I guess my only consolation was thIs thought “I’ll get to eat and drink all the food and drinks I have refrained from all these months! Hello spicy food, hello coffee and tea, and hello wine!”

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I had to trust that while I am away, Joshua was in good hands, had enough milk and food, had a schedule of sleeping, eating, playing and bathing that my helpers were following. Most of all thank you Lord for technology whereby I see photos and communicate with my baby. I had to remind myself God is with us and He is the ultimate protector and provider of Joshua.

It was time to also let my hair down and have fun! It was also good for me to engage in learning and applying concepts at work. It was also an awesome experience to socialize with other team members from all over the globe.

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At the end of that long week, all I wanted to do was go home to my family. After all our sessions, I took the next flight out which happens to be at night. When I got to Manila I had a 4 hour layover and took the first flight in the morning to General Santos. It was a tiring trip but was the best decision to travel that way because I could not wait to hug and snuggle my baby and husband. It was perfect timing too because my baby was down to his last milk stash.

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I don’t think I can probably go on a trip away from my baby for a while. But it was a good learning experience for me. I learned that Separation Anxiety is not a myth. It is real!

Personal Pick – Infant Breakfast

My friends ask me what I feed Joshua. He is not a fat baby (might be a genetic thing because my family are a bit skinny). Joshua however can eat and is a very active baby. Ever since his interest for solid food began, he was on a journey to try different kinds of food.

For breakfast everyday, we start with breakfast cereal. Cereals for babies are the powdered type of breakfast mix that requires hot water. Once mixed with the hot water it turns into a thicker batter ready to be eaten by your baby. There are several brands out there. The more famous one is Cerelac.

I have read somewhere that cereals can cause constipation to your baby. But its not the cereal per se, it could be the iron fortified as an additive to the cereal that can cause that. So, I have always done this mix… Cereal+oatmeal mix. This will give my baby enough fiber that solves the constipation issue.

I also did a bit of checking on the cereals out there. To be honest, Cerelac has an overly sweet flavor. Well, in my opinion, I don’t want my son to get used to so much sweets. So I have found other alternatives.

My next choice is Promina. It is a cereal made in Indonesia. It has no preservatives, no coloring, no artificial sweeteners, nor msg. It is also fortified with vitamins. It was sweetened enough and just right. Our favorite flavors are brown rice with milk and mung bean with milk. They also have chicken with vegetables flavor and it is more a lunch kind of cereal.

Then still I looked for options that did not have sugar. I found a brand made in the Philippines. Nutri-Del is a dry infant cereal with no sugar, no salt, no preservatives, nor artificial coloring and fortified with vitamins! With this one you can regulate how much sugar you put on your baby’s cereal. They also have several flavors

As usual, I always mix in a bit of oatmeal to the cereal. I like Australian Harvest instant oats. It has good quality oats that plumps up well with hot water.

As an additional tip I learned, avoid feeding your baby with honey. Though I probably served my son oatmeal with honey several times. I did not realize it can cause danger to him. According to my research honey can cause botulism bacteria and babies under one year old have a difficult time fighting it. But I thank God, Joshua seems fine. I totally stopped serving him breakfast with honey in the mix.

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This is the breakfast personal pick that my baby likes. Its good to alternate what my son eats, so he can widen his palate and enjoy all kinds of food when he grows older.

Mommy Boo-boos

Its no surprise that mothers have their fair share of funny boo-boos in raising their children. All the more for the first time mothers! I am writing this to share these light moments of learning with minutes of stress in between!

Oh No! No Sleeping Baby!

After 9 months of not having caffeine in my diet because of pregnancy, I started to miss sipping tea. Joshua was probably 2 months old, and I was entertaining a friend at home. I offered her tea, and I drank a cup too. Nothing harmful, it was nice and relaxing feeling until I breastfed my son. Boom! I saw my little infant suddenly on an upbeat mood with jumpy behavior. My baby passed his usual sleeping time (because at that age babies should be sleeping a lot) and was wide awake. After a couple hours, he was tired and could not sleep. He started to cry and whine! It was terribly stressful for me, because nothing could soothe him. It was really the caffeine that he drank through my breast milk! It takes about 6 hours to take out the caffeine from the system of a baby. When your baby non-stop cries, it feels like forever! I learned a very valuable lesson that day and have kept myself caffeine-free!

Baby, I spice up your life!

At 6 months old, solid foods just become another exciting part of a growing baby. As an excited mom to introduce food, I started with squash. Yes I kept the squash in the equation while adding other vegetables such as carrots, sayote, string beans. I kept the squash in the diet for 1 month and a half, eaten twice a day (during lunch and dinner)… The end result, I have a healthy baby with a yellow nose, yellow fingertips and toes! Hahaha, and mind you, it does not fade that easily!

Still on solid food, our pediatrician suggested to put some beef broth on the vegetables I was feeding Joshua. It was a brilliant idea because the bland flavor of the squash can now have a better taste. So, I was diligent to ask our cook to give me soup from his Tinola. He obliged to my request and so he gathered the very last of the soup of that Tinola in a bowl. I was so excited, I placed the vegetables in the blender and added the soup. It was a perfect blend. So I began feeding my son, and he ate. But starting the third spoon, he would take the food and cry right after. I wondered what was wrong. So I gave him milk and kept feeding. He would drink milk and stop crying, and after taking a spoon of food, he would cry. The funny part was we kept feeding, and he kept eating and crying. He finished the entire bowl! Later, I made another batch with the same soup. This time, I tried it. It was only then I realized why he was crying… The food was slightly spicy because of the large chili placed in the Tinola. My son had his first spicy food! I was laughing at the same time thinking, I was a bad mommy for not checking. The only blessing is, now Joshua does not mind a bit of spice in his food.

Oh, and the other boo-boo had to do with me trying to remove the squash from the diet of Joshua. Instead, I decided to replace squash with potatoes. So I had potatoes, sayote, malunggay, string beans, broccoli in his new mix for his lunch and dinner. The problem was I was putting more potatoes in the mix. In about 3 days of that new diet, my son had the most difficult time pushing out his bowel. He was crying in pain and he was really constipated with very hard bowel. I had to soothe him with milk as he was pushing because he was in so much pain. After researching the causes of constipation, I learned that starch causes constipation. It was the potatoes! From that day forward, I took out potatoes from his diet until he is more mature to digest that kind of starch. Wow, had I known, I would have saved him from that pain.

Going Paperless

My son now is interested with so many things. He actually is so curious that almost anything he puts in his mouth. So we try to put away things that might be dirty away from him. One evening, I had him with me on our bed. He was playing with the things on the bed including my newly opened citibank bill. So I left him because he does like looking at pictures. I was busy texting when suddenly I see him chewing something. The paper ad of citibank had a rip. So I opened my sons mouth and right at the roof of his mouth I saw a large piece of that paper ad. I tried to scoop it and it was so stuck in his mouth. We were both struggling! I was trying to get the paper out, and he was trying to get my hands out of his mouth. I was in panic mode because I could not get the paper out and it was getting soaked with his saliva so it was getting more stuck at the roof of his mouth. I had to ask assistance from his nanny to hold him so I can remove the paper. I finally got the paper out but he bit a portion of the paper and chewed and swallowed it. I was screaming his name “Joshua, NOOO…” But it was gone. Totally gone. Joshua had his first paper ad. What else can I do?

Now, I am trying to get Joshua away from paper, because his first attempt was not his last.

When I think about these boo-boos, I laugh. These have become tools for me to learn how to be a better mom to my baby. No mother is perfect, but a little humor makes motherhood a lighthearted fun journey.

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Motherhood made a Healthier Me

Before pregnancy, I was one unhealthy woman. I was lazy to exercise and I let go of my healthy diet and got my body accustomed to junk food. As skinny as I was before pregnancy, my lipid profile showed that my cholesterol was out of control. I also skipped breakfast, did a lot of midnight snacking, slept late (around 12mn to 2am). Talk about major bad habits, I had them!

The only thing I was proud of was that I did not smoke (I quit this one about 10 yrs ago), and also I did not really drink alcohol except on special occasions. But on the overall I was not healthy. Then, unexpectedly, I get 2 lines on the pregnancy test. This means fixing up my life. Now that I am providing nourishment to a baby in my womb, it made me decide to drastically change my lifestyle.

Healthy Me during Pregnancy

Healthy Me during Pregnancy

The good thing was my body started to crave for breakfast and so I had that back on my diet. Also fried food made me sick, so this made me want boiled food, steamed dishes, proteins and vegetables. I had to discipline my body to avoid junk food. Though I wont lie that I had several occasions I cheated. Ok… it was with Cheetos and chocolates (mommies admit that you can relate!). But I discovered that fruits replaced these cravings.

Since I got pregnant at a much later age and having no exercise, I really felt the age of my body. I decided to do yoga for pregnant women at home. That helped support my body for the weight, but really the back aches were no longer preventable on the last trimester. In my wishful thinking, I could have been more prepared for the pregnancy. But who knew I would even be pregnant after 7 years of waiting!

There were also foods that a pregnant woman is refrained from eating… Such as raw food – fish or meat (sashimi to prosciutto) because it can cause bacteria that can make a mother sick. Also having a balanced control of patries and sugar-filled food can prevent getting gestational diabetes.

After child birth, being healthy is still required for those who plan to breastfeed. Since my son is getting all his nourishment from me, I have to ensure I eat healthy to provide what he needs. That means staying away from caffeinated drinks (because it keeps your baby awake even when he is tired), away from too much sweets (because it depletes the milk), staying away from chocolates (it can cause allergies to your baby), staying away from too spicy foods (because it causes gas and reflux to your baby), and away from a lot of preservatives (because it gets passed on to the baby).

Ever since Joshua came into our lives, he has been my motivation to stay healthy. I pray I get to maintain this even after he weans. I have never felt this good about my body and its all thanks to motherhood!

The bible has a similar account about being healthy in motherhood. The story of Samson’s mom:

There was a certain man of Zorah, of the family of the Danites, whose name was Manoah; and his wife was barren and had borne no children. Then the angel of the Lord appeared to the woman and said to her, “Behold now, you are barren and have borne no children, but you shall conceive and give birth to a son. Now therefore, be careful not to drink wine or strong drink, nor eat any unclean thing

And now Solids!

One of the most exciting part of a growing baby is introducing them to solid food! We started solid foods a week before Joshua turned 6 months.

It all started with my son being interested with everything that we ate during meals. He would look intently with his mouth swallowing saliva and moving like it is motioning to eat. He was doing this as early as 4 months, but i refused to give him any solids.

But about a week before he turned 6 months, I was eating oatmeal for breakfast. Joshua just stared following my spoon from the bowl to my mouth! Poor guy, he really was showing interest to try. That day, I decided that he would try the last few bites of my oatmeal. He finished what was in the bowl and even sighed for more. It was a sign that he was ready for more!

So here comes the adventure of introducing my son to home-made solids. On our first week we did just one meal a day of just oatmeal and powdered cereal. He did very well with that, and on the second week we added lunch into his diet! Lunch was the exciting part because this is where we were experimenting what he could try. Initially we went for boiled squash and breast milk. He loved it. We had that everyday for a week. By the third week, Joshua was having 3 meals a day! He had such an adventurous palate!

Now, let me also be clear… Do not take away milk in the equation just because our baby is eating. One mom gave that tip of making your baby drink breast milk before and after a meal. As a recollection to my blog, Breastmilk is a SUPER FOOD. It is more nutritious than any food we can give our baby, so do not neglect giving it (unless you really want your child to wean).

So here are some recipes of home made food that Joshua enjoys. There are endless possibilities!

Squash Combo:

Cubed Squash
Sliced Carrot
Cubed Potato
Sliced Sayote or Green papaya

Boil these vegetables in water (I use filtered water) until it is cooked. Then set aside and place in blender or hand mash the vegetables with breast milk. You can even add malunggay, broccoli, etc. The possibilities are endless! You can also put a little beef broth to flavor it further.

Pear and Apple Snackadoodle
1 Pear Cubed
1 Apple Cubed

Boil this in water. When it is cooked, place the pear and apple cubes in the blender. Get about 1/4 cup of the boiled water (because the nutrients are still in it), and blend this with the pear and apple. Place in a separate container and chill in the refrigerator. Serve chilled when your child wants to take a snack or merienda.

I am also careful about feeding my little one sweets before his tooth even comes out! Yes, he has not tried ice cream or other sweet stuff. Even the powdered cereal, I prefer the less sweet ones and mix it with oatmeal. I suppose training your child to eat healthy and choose vegetables and fruit over junk food at this early age can develop his eating pattern in the future.

Oh this is such a fun stage! Time to get creative in making homemade food. I have decided to go homemade because its free from preservatives, and ultimately more nutritious than the products found on the shelf of the grocery.

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